On a few recent occasions, I’ve noticed people have gotten a little lazy when it comes to saying “thank you” and it’s made me wonder: has everyone misplaced their manners?
First, I threw my traditional holiday party – an event I enjoy hosting purely for the pleasure of facilitating a fun time for friends. But the next day, I received only a couple texts from guests telling me they had a good time. After spending a fair amount of time and money to prepare for it only to get such a small response, I’m not really encouraged to throw another party.
Secondly, I mailed a thoughtfully chosen package of gifts to a long-distance friend. I was looking forward to hearing what she thought of the specific gifts, as I couldn’t be there to see her open it in person. Instead, I got a quick and generic thank you on my Facebook wall – not even a private message or a text. I still don’t know what she thought of the things I’d handpicked for her.
Lastly, I brought a gift and card to a friend’s birthday party recently. There were lots of people arriving when I gave it to her, so it was basically just grabbed and set down on a table. The next day, there was no personal thank you: just a mass post to all the guests in the Facebook event page thanking people for coming and for the gifts. I’m not of the belief that a one-sized message fits all.
Back when more value was placed on etiquette, handwritten cards and phone calls were the standard. But now, a simple but personal text message is all you can ask – and it’s not much.
So, the next time someone makes a gesture that you know they put effort into, put a little effort back to thank them for it – it goes a long way.
What are your thoughts on thank-you’s? How do you like to thank someone? Leave a comment below!